The Controlling Mother

Anyone who has served in ministry for any time will come face-to-face with a controlling spirit sooner than later.

A controlling spirit is an evil spirit that heavily influences the spirit of a human to obsessively control and dominate the lives of others. The individual possessed by such a spirit becomes obsessed with meddling, controlling, and manipulating the affairs and, by extension, the lives of others. These people become master manipulators, deceitful, cunning, and professional liars. No matter what they do, their intent will always be to assume complete control, especially in areas with people they have no authority to control. Today, however, I want to write specifically about the controlling mother. Nevertheless, I would like to clarify that while I am specifically addressing the controlling mother in today's teaching, this nasty, stubborn, and relentless spirit is not limited to the female gender but males also.

My ministry has allowed me to meet folks from various walks of life. As a result, being armed with the knowledge of their experiences has freed me from the limited understanding I once had towards human behavior. For example, the average Pastor or religious leader would dismiss witchcraft, demons, Obeah, Voodoo, etc. In fact, I had sat with folks that told me when they mentioned such experiences to their religious leaders, they were either dismissed, or they would be questioned if their experiences with these things were authentic.

Growing up as children, it was customary for our mothers to control a great extent of our lives. Some of the reasons for this were to protect, nurture, and preserve us from the world's evils and shape us into good citizens of society. However, it is becoming more and more evident in our community, where grown adults walk about as Zombies. The latter are incapable of doing anything for themselves unless they consult with their controlling Mothers! Clearly, there was never a line drawn in the sand in such cases as to what the mother's limits were in these adults' lives. Mommy, who has become the CEO of their lives, is now responsible for telling these mentally manipulated slaves who they can and cannot date, who they should marry, who in the family they could and can not speak to, what clothing they should purchase, etc. God forbid if they were to do something outside of the knowledge of Mommy, all hell would break loose to the point of ex-communication as their punishment with zero consultation concerning future matters.

Suppose you are involved with someone who, as an adult, has to obtain approval from their controlling parents. But, more specifically, their obsessive, controlling mother, then drop everything right now and run for your life! I promise you, you'll thank me for this advice one day. Nevertheless, if you decide to go contrary to this seemingly trivial counsel, you would have simultaneously signed on to a life of utter misery and fruitlessness. The controlling mother will always play on the sympathy of her victims by telling them all she has done for them. When boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, and wife forsake them, Mommy will always be there, etc. With such intense manipulation, the mentally defenseless adult sees no course of action other than to submit to the controlling mother.

Not so long ago, I had the pleasure of observing firsthand a mother who was so controlling that she made it known to all that all of her married sons had her and not their wives as the beneficiary of their life insurance policies. Aside from that, these same sons would have to eat dinner every Sunday at the mother's house despite their wives preparing dinner for them. In another instance, I have seen a controlling mother move in with her son and daughter-in-law only to become the woman of the house while the son supports mommy, the "bully," while the wife is berated. Amazingly, I have discovered a link between a person with a controlling spirit and the spirit of witchcraft. As many of you may or may not know, a person with a witchcraft spirit has the same goals as the person with a controlling spirit: to ultimately control and dominate others. I mentioned this link only to say that the controlling person will stop at absolutely nothing to facilitate their will in the victims' life. Of course, this is not limited to the introduction of witchcraft to spiritually control the choices of others.

Unfortunately, their victims are so bewitched that whatever the controller says or does, it will always be right in the victim's view. Their greatest fear is Mommy not speaking to them or mommy being upset with them. Forget how, wife, husband, children, or anyone else for that matter feel the controller must always be the priority. I have also discovered that these folks are the biggest liars walking the face of the earth and can be pretty emotional and convincing with their well-crafted lies. Another sign that these folks, in most cases they are obsessed with being affiliated with the church. However, this is just a cover-up to hide who they really are and to give an outward appearance of a so-called "Woman of God." Every word would be prefixed with "the Lord or Holy Spirit spoke to them concerning so and so." Again this is all manipulation and lies to mislead others. Folks that attend the same church as these controllers will quickly tell you how these people must be in charge, and if they're not in command of a particular ministry or event, just like little children, they don't want to be a part of the event or ministry anymore. If they decide to remain, trust me, it's only to undermine the leader by poisoning the followers' minds to rebel against the leader only so that they can be elevated to leadership.

Scripture says that a wise man sees evil from a far-off and hides, but the naive and straightforward see the same evil and continue to walk into that evil and is penalized according to Proverbs 22:3. My advice for someone today who is not reading this article by accident. There have been too many signs for you to foolishly continue on this road of destruction. You have asked the Lord for a sign as to whether or not you should continue to peruse this relationship with all of the above signs from this controlling parent. These folks are unnaturally connected to their children to the extent that they can not have a life of their own or want to live their lives through their children.

Consequently, their weapon of choice will always be their desire to control and again by any means necessary, including witchcraft. Therefore, I strongly suggest you do not eat anything these agents of Satan prepare or give to you. Whatever items in your home that were given to you by them get it out of your possession and burn it, especially if it is clear you're not liked by them. If they gave you a bible, give it back, return it now or do away with it. Many folks are stretched out in cemeteries worldwide today, and if they had the chance to return to earth would tell you to take heed to this seemingly crazy advice. Again, these controllers are like children. They do not "take last"; they will fight to the end, and they are very much territorial.

You will never enjoy life with the children of these controllers simply because you will always be competing with the son or daughter's love as long as mommy the manipulator is around. As long as Mommy is alive, only mommy knows their password to the ATM and bank accounts, only mommy has a secret ATM card to the son or daughter's bank account, and you don't. Mommy has a key to the marital home or their children's home, and you, the Fiancee, don't. If you want something to be done urgently, then you better ask Mommy so that mommy can enforce the message for you. Many today read this article who only wish they didn't "fool up with these sick people."

I will end with this, if it is still your desire to become involved with these people, then I will say to you right now to begin the process of scratching, peace, contentment, joy, happiness, and an overall good life off of your future list of expectations because as long as Mommy is alive, you'll never see it.

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and mother, and "CLEAVE" unto his wife: and they shall be "ONE" flesh, Genesis 2:24.

Written By: Kevin L A Ewing
kevinewing@coralwave.com
kevinlaewing.blogspot.com